#MeToo – Now what can I do next?

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Last October, we saw the rise of # MeToo – a global movement against sexual harassment and assault. Because of # MeToo, women all over the world have come forward, sharing photos and stories of pain, trauma and abuse with the hashtag “MeToo” on social media.

For me, the # MeToo movement is deeply touching. These women — whose realities have been distorted, whose bodies have been abused, whose psyches have been traumatized — now have a voice.

A voice that can be shared.
A human story that can be heard.

As a collective, we can offer each woman the first step to healing and integration: witnessing her story and reflecting the pain she has been through.  Yet I also know that even though the portal for sharing has opened up, there are still so many women who do not voice their abuse with the world.

Recently, I asked women in my own community if they have a # MeToo story. Around 70 to 80% of them said an absolute yes. But out of those who said yes, only about 40% said that they have also shared their story publicly.

So now, several months into the # MeToo movement, we are at a place where women who have shared their story are asking: what’s next?

How can we truly heal?
How can we reclaim the parts of ourselves that have been abused and silenced for so long?

As I said earlier, there are many women who have not stepped forward with their stories. Without a question, for some, this is not necessarily the path toward healing. However, even those who don’t wish to publicly share their pain are asking – what’s next? How can we feel safe, strong and confident in our own bodies?

So, today, I would love to share my top 3 strategies for healing sexual trauma and integration to come back fully to life — more empowered, stronger, and feeling deeply safe in your own body.

1) Sexual Self-Care

Sexual violence can be detrimental to one’s sexual sense of self and ability to physically connect in intimate relationships. Being gentle with yourself in the healing process and maintaining an open dialogue with a trusted partner are very, very important. For this reason, I like working with Jade Egg as a personal sexual self-care practice. This trains your body to understand that sexuality can be safe and gentle. Jade Egg practice can be profoundly helpful for women who suffer from conditions that are often connected to sexual abuse, such as chronic pelvic pain, recurring yeast infections or pain during sex. Working with Jade Egg also allows you to learn how to listen to and trust your body again, which is deeply healing.

2) Collective Sisterhood

A sisterhood is a place where women can collectively rise up, shine brighter, and let our voices to be heard. Whether it is a local get-together with a couple of friends, a weekly meet up in a group, or an online support with a trusted guide, this is a place that allows for deep healing and integration at a nervous system level. A sisterhood gives your brain the direct message that you are safe; you can share and process your pain. There are other women who are going through the same journey. Together, we can love, support, and honor one another.

3) Self Defense

Now, this is opposite to the love that you get from being part of a sisterhood and doing sexual self-care practices, but in my opinion, learning how to defend your body is an incredible support to your system and your sense of agency.

It’s not about going through life like Alice in Wonderland — “nothing can happen to me” — but instead it’s about giving you the power and agency to be able to protect yourself should you need to. The best way to overcome our fears is by facing them head-on, venturing into the dragon’s lair.

Healing your sexuality, being part of a loving sisterhood, and having the strength and skills to protect yourself restores your love for your body and allows you to heal at the deepest level, fully returning to your own power.

After you watch this video, please share with me your biggest takeaway in the comment section below. How shall we continue this conversation around # MeToo, creating space for supporting victims of sexual abuse?

Also, at the end of the video there is a mention of my free Sexual Healing for Modern Day Goddess guide. You can get it here.

 

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